Networking without the cringe: how to make real connections at virtual and in-person events
For a lot of people, the idea of networking can bring on some anxiety or discomfort. It can sometimes feel hard to figure out how to approach others and build relationships that actually matter. But networking isn't just about exchanging cards or "making contacts," it's about building authentic connections based on mutual interest, curiosity, and a shared desire to learn.
Once you understand that networking is a human, natural process, it becomes a much richer experience, and yes, even an enjoyable one. In this blog, we'll walk you through a practical guide so your next interactions, whether virtual or in person, are sincere, valuable, and effective.
Before the event: laying the groundwork for successful networking
Get clear on your intentions
Networking isn't about "collecting contacts." It's about building relationships that create value for both sides. What are you actually looking for? It could be mentorship, collaboration, job opportunities, or simply learning more about a specific topic.
A LinkedIn study shows that professionals who set clear goals for events achieve 70% more relevant interactions. So take a moment to define what you want to get out of it.
Research and prepare
If it's a virtual event, check the agenda, speakers, and attendees. If it's in person, find out who will be there and what topics will come up. Having this information will help you identify the key people you want to connect with.
Also, prepare smart questions that show genuine interest. For example: "I saw you're working on X project, what challenges did you run into with…?"
Practice your natural "elevator pitch"
It's not about memorizing a script, it's about being clear on how to describe who you are, what you do, and what interests you in 30 seconds. The key is keeping it simple, clear, and above all, authentic.
Avoid clichéd or overblown phrases. Being natural is more appealing than a rehearsed speech.
During the event: how to shine without stumbling
Participate actively and add value
At virtual events, make use of interactive tools: chats, polls, breakout rooms. In person, don't be afraid to approach people or join groups. As scary as it feels, breaking the ice is usually easier than you imagine.
Try to add something valuable to the conversation: an experience, an interesting question, a useful resource. That's what makes you memorable and useful, not just another face in the crowd.
Listen to understand
One of the most underrated skills is active listening. Ask questions with genuine interest, show empathy, and let the other person express themselves.
A Harvard University study found that people remember someone who listens actively far better than someone who's constantly trying to sell themselves. Listening builds trust and opens doors.
Be authentic
Don't be afraid to show your real self, your doubts, or what you're still learning. Authenticity builds deeper connections than a polished professional mask.
Remember: nobody expects you to be perfect, just human. That's what makes relationships more genuine and lasting.
Mind your body language
Your posture, eye contact, and smile communicate more than your words. Keep an open attitude, avoid crossing your arms or constantly checking your phone.
In virtual settings, use your camera to convey that same warmth: look at the camera, keep a friendly expression, and avoid distractions.
Technology as an ally
Modern networking combines the best of in-person interaction with digital tools. To strengthen your connections:
LinkedIn: ideal for staying in touch after the event, sharing content, and showcasing your expertise.
Online communities: join interest groups where you can keep learning and contributing (forums, Discord, Slack).
Networking apps: some event platforms offer chats and scheduling tools to organize meetings.
The key is keeping the interaction alive beyond the event, building a solid, active network.
After the event: the follow-up that makes the difference
Networking doesn't end when you close the session or walk out of the room. Follow-up is what turns a casual contact into a professional relationship.
Personalize your message
When connecting on LinkedIn or sending an email, mention a detail from the conversation so they know it's genuine.
Example: "Hi [name], I really enjoyed talking with you about [topic]. I'd love to stay in touch and learn more about your experience in [area]."
Stay in touch without pressure
Don't look for something in return in every interaction. Send articles, congratulate them on achievements, or share events that might interest them. Building relationships is a give-and-take process.
Set up periodic check-ins
If possible, suggest a virtual coffee or a call to exchange ideas. This strengthens the relationship and can open up unexpected opportunities.
Conclusion
Real, effective networking isn't cringe at all when you do it with intention, authenticity, and respect. Preparing, listening, adding value, and following up are the pillars of building professional relationships that go beyond a single event.
Remember that the connections that truly matter are the ones that add to your growth and to others', not the number of cards you manage to collect.
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